In our last blog, our Phoenix family law attorneys gave some pointers on how to help kids through a divorce. If you have not decided whether divorce is for you or not and it’s because you’re fearful of what it will do to your kids, remember you’re not doing them (or yourself) any favors by staying in a relationship laden with fights, anger, resentment and pain.
Here’s a couple of things you can do to ease the pain of your babies when the divorce is in play.
Rules should be the same in both homes: Mom’s house can’t be a death camp while dad’s house is a free for all funfest. Make sure to be on the same team when it comes to punishments, bedtimes, eating times, homework rules, etc. The kids may not like the rules (what else is new) but if they know the consequences are the same at either house, they’ll know what to expect. Bedtime is really important here — staying on the same sleep schedule helps them in school and is best for a child’s health.
Put the kids ahead of the property: Okay, so you’re angry she got the house, he got the car, it’s not fair she gets to keep the engagement ring that belonged to my grandmother… NONE of this matters as much as the kids and their wellbeing. If you have to have a screaming match about your differences, save it for your Phoenix divorce lawyer’s office.
Your kids need you now — they need you BOTH more than ever because they are experiencing the death of an era just as you are. Play nice… just as you’ve taught your children to!
If you have questions about getting divorced in Arizona, give Thompson Law Firm a call today. We’ll help you any way we can. We know you can get through this!
